Saturday, December 20, 2025


The world you live in is complex and diverse. The more you interact with others, the more opportunities for you to experience conflict. In simple terms, conflict is the direct result of you failing to meet your needs when someone else is working to meet a competing need. For example, your neighbor has an overgrown tree that sits near your fence. They start cutting down branches and letting the debris fall into your yard. Now they have a trimmed tree and you have a pile of cuttings. Conflict? Absolutely.

Wednesday, January 6, 2016

Plan for Conflict

If there is anything in life that is inevitable, besides taxes and death, it is conflict. Regardless of how nice you are, it's impossible to avoid conflicts, disagreements and disputes. Why? Because we can only understand life through our own experiences. As hard as you try, it always seems that there is that one person who always brings out the "less-than-best" in you. Having been a behavioral psychologist almost 30 years, I have learned that there is a way to minimize the damage inflicted by someone else. If you know the questions you need to answer, before you find yourself in crisis, you will be fully equipped to manage yourself and perform successful damage control. If you ignore my advice, you will be like the majority of people who end up entangled in a judicial process robbing you of thousands of dollars and years of your life. I am not talking about medical malpractice or blatant negligence. I am talking about the day-to-day events that are physically, emotionally or financially disruptive and make you feel horrible inside. Do you want to know more?

Tuesday, December 29, 2015

Warm Hands?

Have you ever heard the old saying "warm hands, cold heart"? Well, there is actually scientific evidence that indicates the opposite is true. Lawrence Williams, PhD, assistant professor at the University of Colorado at Boulder, and John A. Bargh, PhD, professor of Psychology at Yale University, (2008) conducted two studies on undergraduate students to assess how temperatures affect emotions. They found that holding warm things may actually make people view others more favorably and may also make people more generous.